The myth of resistance.
Parents want their adult children to embrace the freedom of adulthood and spread their wings to pursue independence and their life's purpose. Enter reality: there can be many bumps along the road to adulthood and living an independent life. When you add serious mental illness or addiction to the mix, the growth and change your family is called upon to undergo can be intimidating, overwhelming, confusing, and create all kinds of feelings and reactions. It can also be hugely tr